Twitter - Why?

I'd love to write a song about my frustration regarding this issue, but given the logistics behind recording and stuff, it'd be grossly irresponsible of me to do so. But anyway...

Twitter exhausts me.

I get that the key reason for its success is that it allows others to get a glimpse behind the scenes of others.

What i don't understand within this key concept is why we must feel so compelled to share our weaknesses, and why we must highlight our strengths.

See how intrinsically juvenile Twitter is?

But ok, you got me.
I myself have a Twitter account.

It has only been until recently that i've started using it more (a compulsion that came from an imbalance of bargaining power). But i am quite certain that i shall be using it less liberally now.
Based on the tweets of some of the people i followed, i felt encouraged to vent out my feelings and my emotions but quite frankly, that makes me feel very uncomfortable.

For this reason, before recently, i would use my Twitter account for one of two things: a place where i could post about funny things that happen in my life (using it like how i would with a Facebook status), or as a platform to share with others encouraging scriptures from the Word of God.
Honestly, i'd treat it like how i would with Instagram. People never publish a photo of themselves crying in misery.

As a matter of fact, thinking back, i was pushed to use Twitter as advice from a church friend who encouraged me to follow influential, encouraging people so as to be empowered not only on Sundays, but daily with small doses.
Mostly, these would be well known church pastors who'd collectively, provide an endless supply of optimistic quotes and scripture tweets. Those ones like "The Lord is my light and salvation, whom shall I fear, whom shall I be afraid?" or "Do not be anxious about anything but through prayer and petition, lift up your worries to God".

I used it as a social aid to help me in my own life. I used it to keep my blood flowing.
I used it to feel optimistic. To make me smile.

These are of course, what Twitter meant to me personally.

But, i have to be honest. I don't understand why people use it to proclaim their weaknesses to the world ever so frequently. What's the point? As far as i'm concerned, there are no positives in the long-run. They find out you're not perfect and you have problems.
The best reaction you'd expect from followers - "oh it's ok, cheer up!". What's the point?
But really, if you have enough finances to get you internet and a Twitter account, there are more things to be sad and worried about #firstworldproblems #turnyoureyestoHim #hastaggingresponsibly

And then you might tell others about how you perceive yourself: "man, I suck".
Funnily, there's only one type of response to the self-loathing that will come: "poor you, i don't think you're that bad at all!"
Again, what's the point?

When i saw the tweets and 'fml' Facebook statuses from friends of mine who were looking down on themselves or complaining about trivial narrow aspects of life, i didn't look up to them. I didn't even sympathise with them. Maybe a couple of times, I'd personally message them on Facebook and ask "what's up?" Haha, but even me, the renowned 'nice guy' or 'mother goose' (a name which i have been called more than a couple of times) sometimes couldn't care less.
I just feel like it's wiser for me to distance myself from these fools!

And that's exactly what i do.

Of course, there's a different story with my loved ones (i.e. the girlfriend).
There's a certain insecurity that i feel for my loved ones and myself when i see these tweets. I am aware that i might sound like a bit of a control freak when i say this but, i always expect that it's my responsibility to cheer and check up on my loved one.
I can't help but feel defensive whenever i think that there might be someone else out there (a 'competitor') who might solicit unwarranted recommendations and in that sense, try to take up my role after seeing her tweets. #ijustreallyloveher #shesnotforsharing
I know the things i say will never be enough to keep her absolutely satisfied, calm, and feel like the most important person in the world to me (no matter how bloody hard i try) but gosh, the thought of another guy taking up my role while i'm still her other-half brings... me the chills.
Please, what's the point?

Twitter scares me.

There is an enormous repercussion potential in the things you share on Twitter. Things that people can pounce on.
The public display of your emotional cracks - it's dangerous.

There is such an addiction that can come from this type of social networking in the form of desiring the attention of others to your situation. Surely, this reliance is not a good thing...

This of course, leads me to my main overall contention.

You don't need to reveal the behind the scenes to the public.
All you need are the people who matter to you. The people who truly love you.
And the Comforter; Jesus.

No one has a perfect life. But why burden people who don't truly care rather than those who do?
Because it's those who do care who will give you undying support and the empowerment to press on.
Trust only those who you know you can.

Otherwise, you're only receiving a short-term burst of relief at the expense of letting your problems out and potential embarrassment into the future.

In conclusion...

Keep it together. Keep it close. Keep trusting in God. 

Courtesy - It can go both ways in a bfgf-relationship

I write this with the intention of keeping this short.

I guess it occurred to me recently that sometimes, people try too hard to show love. Unfortunately, sometimes, this results in miscommunication. I write this as the guy who overthinks and has done this before, but only realised after being on the receiving end.

Let's see if you can identify with this scenario.

Out of the purest example of courtesy to your significant other, you tell them that due to THEIR current circumstances (such as time difference, an upcoming exam or assignment due, personal issues, etc.) you'll leave them in peace to rest or something like that. Obviously, you're feeling pretty good about the relationship and feeling like the better half.

Hmm, as obvious as it is for the third person to say "you're awesome! so thoughtful", let's take a look at the receiving end for a person who is very much passionate for their significant other.
So, maybe the first couple of times they've said this, you might say "nah, you're the exception", but then as this scenario plays out again and again, you begin to think. Overthink. Maybe they're just saying this because THEY don't have time for you anymore. They're not interested in your trivial stuffs.

It becomes discourtesy.

And then, your reaction plays out. You begin to mirror image, but with a hidden irritated motive.
At that point, yeah, it's pretty much damage control because both of you end up questioning whether you love each other.

I guess the concept that comes to mind for me now is that people in relationships should learn to appreciate the clingy-ness of their significant other rather than simply ignore or reject it. BUT that when it becomes too much, honesty is the key and you just have to learn to figure out the middle ground.

That's pretty much it right? The middle ground.
The classic hot and cold of a relationship.

Sometimes, you're being courteous. But then again, sometimes you aren't even when you think are.
I guess some days you have to be clingy. And if you calculate your days right, sometimes you can be 'courteously' non-clingy.

I guess for Christian couple however, it's pretty easy to show how much you love each other.
I'd say, just let them know along with the "I love you, good night" each night , say "I'm praying for you" too.
It's probably the best way to kill two bird with one stone; you do think about them, and you care for them.

But regardless of how courteous you're trying to be, my humble opinion is that you make every effort to let your significant other know that you love them in the 'simplest' romantic form.
Back to the basics. 'I love you and I can't wait to see you again!' as opposed to repeatedly stating, 'I know you're busy, so I don't want to burden you'.

In conclusion...
Courtesy. Something vital to a relationship and should be exercised, but should be used less frequently than clingy-ness and reinforced affection.

Again, my humble opinion:

It takes longer for them to think, "you never think of others but your own feelings" than to think, "maybe you don't even care"